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Am I A Freak ???

Or... I Think I Like This Stuff So Now What

For many people, the thought of D/s or BD/SM immediately brings very kinky and erotic images to the imagination. Yes, it can be very kinky. But that is not what the lifestyle is truly all about. We all live in a D/s relationship every day of our lives. Parents and children, bosses and employees, president of a local club and the members, our relationship with our significant other are all examples of dominance and submission. Nature is built around that very principle... someone leads and someone follows. Sound simple??? Well it isn't and it's those dynamics that make life so interesting to live.

But what about all those erotic things I see in movies and magazines??? Everyone thinks I'm sick cause I love to watch someone's butt get beaten with a whip. And those old pirate movies with the flogging scenes....they just make me so... well... you know. <wink> Isn't that what D/s is all about??? The answer to that question is no... it just so happens that erotic thrills of B&D and S&M fit very nicely with dynamics of this lifestyle. But that doesn't mean that every sexual encounter involves ropes and whips and chains!! There are many people who enjoy living in a D/s lifestyle relationship that do not like B&D or S&M play. There is a distinct seperation between D/s, which by the way stands for Dominance/submission, and the aspects of B&D and S&M. Just to make things clear, B&D stands for Bondage and Discipline while S&M stands for Sadism and Masochism. The focus of this site is on the D/s lifestyle. D/s is about emotions and relationships. Most people live in D/s relationships and never know it. We call that the "vanilla" side of D/s, it's a natural aspect of life that people simply accept. The difference with the D/s lifestyle is that the D/s part is understood, nutured, and cherished. But, sorry, there are no freaks... the lifestyle is full of nice, normal, and sane people that you see and work with everyday.

The best way to sum up this lifestyle is that it's an enhancement, sometimes an exaggeration, of the natural aspects of life. The major difference between "vanilla" and the D/s lifestyle can be summed up in a word... Acceptance. People within the lifestyle have come to accept and cherish their roles as a dominant or submissive personality. Acceptance of a person's depth into the lifestyle is at the very core of this interesting and diverse community. This lifestyle has many different levels of intensity and there is a place for everyone. So... no, your not a freak for enjoying the intense sensations and heightened emotional awareness lifestyle that the lifestyle presents. In some ways, people in the lifestyle are very fortunate since they will learn more about themselves than the average person does... it's the nature of the lifestyle.

So... now that you know maybe just a little more than you did before you found this site, do you still think your a freak? More importantly... do you still think you like "this stuff"? If you do, then read on. This web site will attempt to give you the basics about the inter-personal dynamics and play that occurs that occur within a D/s relationship and the D/s community as a whole. Once you feel that you understand what this is about, re-evaluate your position. If you still have a curiosity or have found your like of D/s or BD/SM intensified... then it's time to do something about it. Attend a local munch or talk with someone if the lifestyle. Get to know more about this new way of life from a first-hand basis. Then stop and re-evaluate your position again. And if you like what you've heard or seen... then continue taking steps into the lifestyle. You'll see this wrote several times and it's very true... take your time and learn, there is no need to rush. You'll have the rest of your life to discover all of your likes and hopefully more about yourself than you ever thought possible.